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Monday, January 19, 2015

Why I'm Going To Stop Saying "I Wish..."

7:18 PM Posted by Allie Wood No comments
Today, I had to stand a six-hour service entrance watch (This watch is nicknamed the 'suicide watch' because it's so lonely and boring, which, believe me, it is.) and I was being a little rapscallion and reading a non-military related book, which we're totally not really supposed to do, when I came across this quote by my hero,  Carl Sagan:

"At the heart of some pseudoscience is the idea that wishing makes it so. How satisfying it would be, as in folklore and children's stories, to fulfill our heart's desires just by wishing. How seductive this notion is, especially compared with the hard work and good luck usually required to achieve our hopes. The enchanted fish or the genie from the lamp will grant us three wishes - anything we want except more wishes. Who has not pondered - just to be on the safe side, just in case we ever come upon and accidentally rub an old, squat brass oil lamp - what to ask for?"

That got me thinking just a little bit, because, believe it when I say, I had hours to myself to just think today. So, I made a tiny list of questions and then proceeded to answer them myself, because why not, right?

  • Why do we wish for things so much, even things we have no control over? 
    • Wishful comments like, "I wish it was warmer outside," or "I wish he or she would just text me first already." It's not like some ultimate force is going to hear that and say, "Oh, Allie wants it to be warmer outside right now. Let me just adjust the temperature in Pensacola," or "Looks like I better overpower Joe Schmoe's fine motor skills and text this person for them." I understand that it's comforting, but, in all honesty, it'll get you nowhere fast.
  • Why in the world do we think wishing holds so much power in the first place?
    • Okay, first off, we all know that I'm not a Disney fan or a fan of fairy tales in general, (unless they're the original, gory Grimm Brother's fairy tales, but that's different story altogether) but I feel as if happy-go-lucky stories like those are what have brought us to the "I wish" lifestyle. Most young adults around my age grew up with the whole Disney-esque idea that if you wish for something hard enough, you'll get it. (By the way, I'm totally not talking about Princess and the Frog because Tiana practically works herself to death to get to her goal.) But ultimately, most characters get everything they ever hoped for by just waiting for things to fall into place. That's no way to live. Which brings me to my next question:
  • Instead of wishing, shouldn't we be going out and achieving?
    • YES. A MILLION TIMES, YES. Sitting around and saying "I wish for *insert wish here*," go out and work for it. That's how things get done. Not wallowing around in self-pity. Let's use the story of picking my orders for my next command as an example. I chose my orders to go to North Island, California, to work on MH-60s for the next four or so years. I'm one hundred percent content with where I'm going to be. See, I'll admit that I said, "I wish I get good orders," to myself, but the moral of this little story is that I worked hard in class to get a good enough ranking to be within the first five people to choose their orders. My reasoning for saying "I wish I get good orders," isn't because I wanted to skate by and hope for the best. I said it because there was a premade list to pick from and we had no clue what orders were going to be available on said list. But, hey, I managed to end up getting orders to the same place as my boyfriend and one of my good friends, so my work definitely paid off. 
Mind you, when I say "go out and achieve," I'm not talking about saying things like "I wish I get _____ for my birthday," or anything like that. I'm talking about things you have control over, such as "I wish I had a good job," or "I wish I was a better writer." Obviously, you might not get it the first time, and that's absolutely okay. But, by no means, should you just accept defeat and sit around and wish for these things. I suppose what I'm trying to say is:

Go out and work for it. 
Who knows? 
Maybe your "wish" might just come true.

Sorry, Genie.

To my friends who are reading this, if you hear me say, "I wish" about anything I can personally change, feel free to punch me in the throat. Okay? Okay. 


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